Songwriting Habits - Are you too hard on yourself??

We have huge expectations of ourselves. To be able to write that song and for it to be perfect. To perform without being nervous….And when we don’t meet our own criteria…when we feel nervous, when we feel uncomfortable…we react…we shut down and start criticising our inability to meet our own expectations.

To grow and learn as a songwriter/ performer, dealing with all those unrealistic expectations is a step towards understanding our limitations. By accepting these limitations, it points us towards areas we can work on. Writing a song or performing in front of others can feel like we are putting ourselves on the line..

By taking small steps we can be gentle with ourselves and learn to:

• accept that it’s ok to make mistakes

• be humble enough to know when we don’t know what we are doing

• accept the uncomfortable feelings we have when we put our work out there

• to look at all the small steps we have already made

• to ask for help when we need it

To keep going and not give up and understand that all these difficulties are part of the learning. That is when we are growing and know that at anytime we can start again.

Why deny ourselves the joy of making music.